Changes – A New Beginning
Having just returned home to Ottawa after spending Christmas in Jamaica, I am now ready to face my next challenge which will involve moving out of the home I’ve shared with my friends Eileen and Dave for the past 18 months. As I mentioned in my previous post, our friendship has started to suffer which I know is due to us living together. Regardless of how well you think you know people, there’s a big difference in being friends and living together.
I had told them I was planning the move when I returned home from Jamaica. At the time, this was not taken too well and when I return home today, I will no doubt have to face a certain amount of animosity. How this affects our continuing to be friends will be entirely up to them. I hate conflict and usually try to avoid it, but this time I’m prepared to face it head on and to hell with the consequences.
I learned something on this latest trip – a philosophy that the Jamaicans have – that in life there are no problems, only situations!
Happy New Year! “Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.”
that’s the way I see it.
It is true that every new beginning comes from something ending. Happy New Year and I hope everything works out well for you.
Now that I've finally made the move, I'm sure everything will work out for the better. Happy New Year to you as well.
Friendships are precious. I hope your friends will understand that you are saving your relationships and are doing the right thing.
Yes, friendships are precious and I can probably count on one hand the "true friends" I've had during my life. I thought Eileen and Dave were good friends and we have had some great times together over the past 20+ years, but there comes a time when you have to face up to the reality that they were using me and this has been hardest for me to finally accept.
Whereas it's true that we've been sharing expenses, the fact is that over the years they have taken advantage of me – even before I moved in with them 18 months ago. Then, just over a year ago they "borrowed" $5000 for roof repairs promising to pay me back within a month. I should have realized then that they had no intention of paying me back and so things started going downhill from then. So, my moving out is definitely a negative reflection on them.
Not all friends would be best friends and not all stand by you when you are in need. Thats really bad of them to take advantage of you as a friend. I think what you've said is true, its always better to keep a safe distance from friends than suffer a bad relationship later. I hope they realise their mistake and be friends with you like before.
I've just caught up with all these comments whcih shed more light on your reasons for your move. I wish you all the best in your new abode. I've also given you an award over at my blog, but please don't feel obliged to accept and respond unless you really want to.
happy new Year! Hope everything's well in your new home.
Marms